Bragging Rights

We all brag a little bit, don’t we? There isn’t one of us who never boasts of ourselves. I think mostly it’s because there’s something that we don’t feel we get enough credit for and we want everyone to know about it. And most of us aren’t so subtle about it, either. I mean, it’s not like you can disguise bragging as anything but…bragging. Even if you’re REALLY good with words.

There are a few things I would like to brag about but can’t. In fact, when I even flirt on the edges of boasting, I am so acutely aware of what my not-so-subconscious is trying to do that I end up betraying myself by blushing or bumbling my words. And there’s nothing more embarrassing and contradictory than a braggart who’s clearly not so sure of herself.

I have had at least two of these braggarts in the periphery of my life. They’re not bad people, so I wouldn’t want to openly put them down. But, man, were they insufferable sometimes. Both of them were constantly talking about what they’d done or what they were doing in a way that said, “Look at me! See how gifted I am! See how smart! Think highly of me! Consider me important!” Usually, when someone is like this I can get over it pretty quickly, especially if I know he or she is just a good person with an annoying personality trait. Other times, when I’m not in such a generous mood, I find it grating.

I know it’s pretty universal that no one likes a braggart, but in my case I think I find it so tiresome because I wish I could better promote myself. I’ve always been pretty weak in that area, and have even shied away from doing something well in order not to bring attention to myself. Kind of sad, isn’t it? Because I’m actually good at several things.

But I’m trying to do better. I’m trying not to sell myself short, but to advertise my strengths when the situation calls for it. But ONLY when the situation calls for it. I’m all for being proud, but there’s a difference between being proud and being full of yourself. No random shout outs about how awesome I am. Besides, the most confident people are those who don’t have to shout it from the rooftops.

Did you hear that, you two?

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4 responses to “Bragging Rights

  1. Igo

    I am not sure how accurate I’d be in this translation of old saying from Balkans:
    “I have a defect; yet here is how effective I am…”

    South slavic: “Imam jednu manu pa se pohvalim” – literary: “I have one defect, yet THE tribute is…”

    I.

  2. Jon

    I’ll try to keep it down to a dull roar for you. That being said, don’t be afraid to let that little light of yours shine. Nobody else is going to do it for you 🙂

  3. I hear you loud and clear. 😉

    Actually, this is my issue. I think that everything is about ME. Good things, but more particularly bad things as well. It’s something I’m working on, but it does not do much for my confidence, I must say.

  4. Nav

    I know plenty of these people too. The thing is, we DO all notice when someone is awesome for whatever reason… it doesn’t need to be pointed out constantly. I guess that’s the difference between “proud” and “full of yourself.”

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